If your marriage is facing serious challenges, you have the choice to do a legal separation rather than jump straight to divorce, if that works best for you and your family. A family law attorney in Forest Hills, NY can help you weigh the options.
Legal separation and divorce are both about living apart from a spouse. Legal separation keeps your marriage intact, and a written separation agreement (or, far less often, a court judgment) sets rules for how you'll live separately. You and your spouse remain married, and you cannot remarry. The agreement will typically cover child custody, support, use of your shared property, debt payments, etc.
Divorce ends the marriage completely. After the court dissolves your marital bond, you are legally a single person again and may remarry if you choose.
One clear advantage of legal separation is it gives you some breathing room. You can step back, try counseling, and decide whether the marriage can be repaired or you're 100% sure it should end. And because the marriage continues, any years spent living under a separation agreement still count toward the ten-year marriage requirement for Social Security spousal benefits.
Many health insurance policies continue covering a legally separated spouse, which can be very useful and is something that usually ends when a divorce judgment is entered. If you have religious or personal beliefs that discourage divorce, those can be respected while you still get some enforceable rules for child custody, child support, and financial responsibilities. And it's usually cheaper to file taxes as a married couple than a single.
As helpful as a separation can be in some ways, you do remain legally tied to your spouse. That means you've still got a shared credit history and potential liability for certain debts. You cannot marry anyone else, and if the relationship involves abuse, or if the two of you simply cannot negotiate, creating a fair agreement might be difficult or impossible. Property division under the agreement is contractual, not a final court-ordered equitable distribution like with a divorce.
Divorce offers finality that many people need, and separation doesn't. Once the judgment is entered, the marriage is over and you can remarry, which is a big issue for some. Sometimes the clean legal break of a divorce is the best way to reduce ongoing conflict and give each person a clearer path forward.
Choosing between the two options will always depend on your specific circumstances and whether you want the door to reconciliation left open, whether insurance or Social Security benefits are of great importance in your situation, whether either of you have religious convictions, and whether you are ready emotionally for a permanent legal end to your marriage. Neither route is automatically better, and a lawyer can help you choose what's best for your family.
For help understanding how both paths will affect your situation, contact the Law Offices of Joseph H. Nivin, P.C. in Forest Hills, NY at 347-657-6271 now for a 30-minute case review to discuss your options.