If you are on the verge of a divorce and you have children, chances are you have given some serious thought to what life will look like for them after the separation.
One option you may have considered is nesting. Here is some information on what it is and how it works.
What is nesting?
Nesting is when parents take turns residing in the house they shared while married. This can save families money buying two wardrobes, sets of toys and other essentials. Additionally, it eases children into divorce while allowing them familiarity in their home.
Is this a permanent housing solution?
There is no one-size-fits-all approach to nesting. Each family can nest as long as they feel comfortable and the arrangement remains healthy and viable for everyone involved. Sometimes former couples decide to nest for a few months while others may continue until their children are grown.
Whatever timeframe you select, remember setting boundaries with your ex is essential. Work out a schedule that makes sense for your family, alternating weekdays and weekends so each parent spends free time with the children.
Does nesting always work?
Nesting does not work in every breakup situation. It takes two adults who can communicate respectfully with one another and uphold their end of the bargain in the home.
If you want a way to minimize the initial shock of divorce for your children, nesting is one way to do so. Although problems can arise with this solution, with the right attitude, it can be a wonderful way to help your kids cope with their parent’s separation.